The process matters

Funny how planning something can teach you more about yourselves than actually doing it.

The process matters

Jake and I finally nailed down all the details for our anniversary weekend, and honestly? The planning itself was this weird little relationship boot camp I didn’t see coming.

Turns out we approach decisions completely differently. I’m the one with color-coded lists and backup plans for the backup plans. Jake’s more of a “let’s see what happens” kind of guy. Usually this drives me crazy, but watching him work through the mountain town compromise? He was actually thinking three steps ahead in ways I totally missed.

Lists reveal so much about how your brain works.

We spent hours going back and forth about hiking versus wine tasting, early checkout versus sleeping in, fancy dinner versus that little café we found online. But somewhere in all that back-and-forth, we figured out this rhythm where my planning obsession and his go-with-the-flow thing actually balance each other out pretty well. Who knew arguing about restaurant reservations could be relationship progress?

The weekend’s going to be great, but I think I’m more excited about what we learned getting there. Sometimes the process really is more important than the destination.